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ፊልም ማየት፣ መፅሐፍ ማንበብ፣ ሀይኪንግ መሄድ፣ ትራቭል ማድረግ፣ ዘመድ መጠየቅ፣ ገጠር መሄድ ምናምን ለዲፕረሽን መፍትሄ ናቸው ብለው ሰዎች የሚያቀርቧቸው ነገሮች ናቸው። በርግጥ ለተወሰነ ጊዜ ሊያግዙ ይችላሉ። እኔ ግን ዘላቂ መፍትሄ ይሆናሉ ብዬ አላምንም። የሚሻለንን ነገር እየሞከርን ራሳችንን ፊገርአውት ለማድረግ መሞከር ነው ያለብን።

አንዳንድ ጊዜ ምንም ነገር አያግዝም። የተባሉትን ነገሮች ሁሉ ብናደርግ እንኳን ለውጥ የለውም። ወይም እነሱን ለማድረግ እንኳን የቀረች ትንሽ ያልተደበረች ክፍል አትኖረንም። ስንደበር ሁሉ ነገር ያስጠላናል ኣ? የሚተነፍስ ሰው ሁሉ ስናይ ሊደብረን ይችላል። እንኳን ተነስቶ ታጥቦ ከቤት መውጣት ይቅርና በተኛንበት ባይነጋ የምንመኝበት ጊዜ ይኖራል።

ሰዎች ጊዜ አልሰጡኝም፣ አላዋሩኝም፣ ጉዳዬ ጉዳያቸው አልሆነም ምናምን አይባልም። እነሆ ለሰው የገዛ ድብርቱ ይበቃዋል። የሰው ችግር መስማት፣ መንገድ ላይ የተቸገረ ሰው ማየት፣ ዳቦ ግዢልኝ ምናምን የሚባሉ ጥያቄዎች እንደሰለቹኝ ምንም አልሰለቸኝም እኔ በበኩሌ።

ድብርታችንን አሸንፈን መውጣት ቢያቅተን እንኳን አብሮ መኖር መቻል ግን አለብን። ከሰው ብንጠብቅም ቢያንስ ግን እንዲህ ማድረግ ነበረባቸው ብለን ውሳኔ መስጠት እንደማንችል ማወቅ አለብን። ማንም የማንም ሀላፊነት አይደለም። ማንም የማንንም ችግር የመካፈል ግዴታ የለበትም። ማንም የማንም አማካሪ አይደለም ስራው ካልሆነ በስተቀር። ሰዎች ምቾታቸውን ትተው ትንሽ ነገር እንኳን ለኛ ካደረጉልን we should be grateful for that. ጉዳያቸው አይደለም ስለወደዱን እንጂ! በተረፈ ግን know ur values, love ur self! Keep going!

© ፅዮን
Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover.

-Jeff Brown-
ሁላችንም ክፋት አለን። እዛ ሰው ገሎ ሰልፊ የሚነሳውም ቢሆን ከእያንዳንዳችን የሚመጣጠን ክፋት ነው ያለው። ለክፋቱ ምክንያት አለው። ምክንያት መኖሩ ክፉ እንዳያስብለው ባይሆንም የሁላችን ትንሽ ትንሽ አስተዋፅኦ በያንዳንዳችን ላይ አለበት ብዬ ስለማምን ክፉ ብለን ስንል እኛም ውስጣችን ያለች ከዘመነኛ ልብሳችን ጋር የማትሄድ ረግጠን የገዛናት ሁዋላ ቀር ክፋት አለችን።
ግን ክፋታችን ክፋት የለውም። ለመፅናናት፣ ለመኖር፣ ለመቀጠል ሳናስበው በልምድ የምናደርገው ይመስለኛል።

ክፉ አይደለሽም? ክፉ አይደለህም? እምባ የለብሽም? እምባ የለብህም? ስንት ግዜ ራሳችንን ይቅር ብለን ነው ጥሩ ሰው ለመባል የበቃነው?
ክፋት ትንሹና ትልቁ እኩል ይጎዳሉ። ሰው አልገደልሽ/ክ ይሆናል የሆነ ሰው ህይወትን ዳግመኛ በአበባ አይኑ እንዳያይ ግን ቀለሙን ነጥቀሃል/ሻል። ንፁህ ለመሆን አትሞክር/ሪ። ያሳዘንነው ልብ ስላልሞተ/ች ነው?

Remember jules in euphoria?

Jules unlike rue በቀላሉ የምትወደድ፣ የምትግባባ፣ ዛሬ ያወቀችውን ሰው የምታቅፍ፣ የምታፅናና፣ ሁኔታውን መምሰል የምትችል my favorite character ነች። she is awesome alone, but not with rue. rue is the same everywhere ... ከቤተሰብ ከጓደኛ ጋር አንድ አይነት ቅዝቃዜ፣ አንድ አይነት ርቀት፣ አንድ አይነት አቀራረብ ያላት ናት። rue is miserable and beautiful everywhere but not with jules.ነገሮች አንፃራዊ ናቸው። They are both misreably beautiful when they are with each other, best chemistry ever, but not when there is some one else around, because jules is an entertainer she gives the same amount of love to some one new with the same energy she gives to rue. No one has access to rues mood but everyone has to jules. Rue is saving hers for jules only. Jules ለrue ኮታዋን ታካፍላታለች እንጂ የምትቆጥብላት ማንነት የላትም። ክፋት አይደለም but it is for rue. ክፋት የሌለው ክፋት...

የሰውን ልጅ fade up የሚያደርገው የሚሰጠውን ያህል ጉልበት የሌለው ፍቅር እና ታማኝነት ሳይቀበል ሲቀር ነው። ወይንም የአንዱ የነገሮች ትርጉም ለሌላኛው እኩል ሚዛን የማይደፋ ሌላ ትርጉም ሲኖረው ነው።

Life is a perspective .... እና የአንዱ ልዩ አመለካከት ለሌላው ስብራት ነው። ልብ ካልተሰበረ የህይወት ማሽኗ አይነሳም። እምባ is running the world. We can't hate people or call them ክፉ just because they don't give things the same value as we did. Even if its for our own body.

(people like jules)
የውድቀት መነሻ ባይሆኑም ውድቀትን ለብቻ እንድንካፈል ያደርጉና አይዞሽ ለማለት ይኖራሉ። ያንን ማለፍ እንደሌለብን ሳይሆን ስናልፈው አብረውን እንዳሉ ብቻ ያሰሙናል። ብቁነታቸውን በሌላ ድክመት ነው የሚያውቁት። እንዳይሰብሩን አይጠሉንም። ግን በሌላ የተሰበርነውን እያስታወሱ ሊያጠግጉን ይሞክራሉ። ብንድንም "አይዞን" ይሉናል። አለአይደል ሙሉ በሙሉ ከዳንን ቦታቸው ይጠፋባቸዋል። jules does the same to rue.... ሁላችንም ልንሸፍነው የምንሮጠው የልጅነት ትራውማ አለን። ያንን አንዳንዴ ልንሸፍነው የምንችለው ከእኛ በባሰ ትራውማ በተጎሳቆለ ሰው ነው። ጥላ መሆን እንደማንችል እያሰብን ኖረን መጥተው ሲሸሸጉብን ደህና የሆንን የተለየን ይመስለናል። ብቻችንን ሆነን ያልተሰማንን ብቸኝነት ከመጡ በሁዋላ ያስለመዱንን ትከሻ ለሁሉም ሲያንተርሱት ያሰሙናል።

እነሱ የሚያውቁት ፍቅር እየሰጡ እንደሆነ እኛ የሚሰማን ከማንም ጋር እየተቀራመትን እንደሆነ ...

Beza_Brown
I wish the people i love understand this.
I'm a distant person. A loner. I don't like to be left alone and yet, i drive people out of my life. I don't check out. I'm very bad at checking out. I can't communicate normally. I get anxiety of people being nice to me. I also get anxiety of me being too much on other people. I don't know how to be a friend. I don't know how to be present in someone's life. Even though, i believe the people i love, they're better off with out me and it's gonna be good for them, it hurts me, it pains me to see my loved one's slowly fading away out of my life.
Ofc, some of 'em might not be as good friends as i thought. And they abandoned me when i need them the most. But the one's who was there for me at my darkest times, broo it pains me that I've never been the friend they've been to me.
cousins, friend from high school, friends from out of school, and also friends frome here (Social Media), who i opened up to, who gave me a hand when I'm in need, who have been helping me without even me asking for help, I wish i was not like this. I hat me for being like this. But i can't help it.
This is for the calls ignored, for texts i left on seen, for those countless "are you okay?"s, You're still loved. I love you. I wish you would understand.

© Ziyad
Our idea of love is so fucked up lately that if authors like Jane Austen came back to life and saw this bullshit, they would have burned themselves alive along with their romantic pages that were so painfully beautiful. Y'all fall in love so often, so shallow, so tragically. You think you're in love because you saw a woman in your thoughts, in the middle of the night, at your most confrontational hour when your life's ghosts dance around to haunt you. At the most ugliest moment of your day when your mind is desperately looking for a beauty to mask what you've been hiding. So she appears to be the most beautiful part of your existence. So you convince yourself that you have never felt like this for anyone. No one from your long list of women in ur days, no warmth from the girl you we making mediocre love to that same afternoon comes to your mind.
Then how dare she?. How dare she is not there with you? How dare she hasn't fallen for your half hearted attention and river of words. How dare she refuse to be objectified as your achievement so that you can feel good about yourself at your weakest moment.
How dare she is happy with someone else instead of being miserable with you. How weak are you that you couldn't convince her that you're a good man. How much of a fool are you that you couldn't manipulate yourself into her lifev?. To hell with her, she has broken your heart. You're the true victim.
And then you recover in the morning, you see that woman whom you have been friends with hopping someday you will achieve your true intensions.
You once sat there listening to her cry and break. You saw her at her weakest days and you were a gentleman enough not to take advantage. Then you think to yourself, this must be love. Your brain again tells you that you're owed love in return for your act of basic descent human conduct. So how dare she falls in love with another man once she's not crying anymore?
Let's stone her to death because this one broke your heart too, she lead you on and gave u expectations (you did not make up any in ur head at all).
The next day you see another gorgeous one, you're already convinced she is the one, so why not try everything in your power to make her yours. Your mind keeps reminding you your one sided rules

1, if she is friendly, you won't have to try that much.
2, if she doesn't talk to you, she just wants you to try harder.
3. If she tries to have a meaningful conversation, she's leading you on.
Whatever scenario that might end up happening, remember, you're in love, and you're the hero. But gaddamn it has been few weeks and she's not on her knees for you yet. To hell with her for seeing through your empty promises and an even emptier heart.this heart break is going to wake you up at midnight again, and your mind starts to wonder where it all went wrong. But it will never reveal the truth, it's just going to come up with another pretty cover and your nightmare begins all over again.
If Jane Austin were about to write a new novel, she would describe this not as love, but as the illumination of your unfulfilled life from the mirror of your frustrated mind. But who am i to talk.

© Gonegirl

@LonelyDude
I will be here everyday ከአሁን በኋላ can you just share my channel for your friends & contact here 👉🏾 @Lonely_101_bot for cross 🤞🏾
I am familiar with pain, love, suffering, regret, happiness, sadness, depression and anxiety. The only one that still feels foreign to me is peace, total peace. Nothing is ever totally at peace. Peace, not in one aspect of ones life, but the kind of peace that touches everywhere.

I want to lean back and have a drink, worry about nothing because there's nothing to actually worry about. Worries are relics of the past, forgone in time. Worries are elements of war, they never exist to make you happy.

This peace, it's somewhere or maybe it doesn't exist. Maybe it's a non existing construct we chase after till we die, because there's never total peace. But I can't know yet, maybe you found yours, I haven't found mine. So I'll keep searching. What else can I do?

@LonelyDude
Lonely Dude • • • pinned «I am familiar with pain, love, suffering, regret, happiness, sadness, depression and anxiety. The only one that still feels foreign to me is peace, total peace. Nothing is ever totally at peace. Peace, not in one aspect of ones life, but the kind of peace…»
Some people are so good at seeming to be good which is why I don’t like most good people,If you’re a bad person be a bad person,let everyone know you’re bad don’t force yourself to be good just because you’re afraid of being judged or scared of some place called hell.Pick a side and be yourself.

@LonelyDude
I just don’t know how to be loved bro I end up ruining it every single time

@LonelyDude
I find peace of mind maybe once a year then that’s it, War inside my head

@LonelyDude
Lonely Dude • • •
Yohana – Gelagay
እስኪ ከጠበቅኩት አጉድሎብኝ የማያውቀውን ዮሀናን ትንሽ እናናግረው...

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ልጅቷ እልኸኛናት። ችግሯን መናገር መሸነፍ የሚመስላት። በራስ መተማመኗ አልፏት ሄዶ ሊጎዳት የተቃረበ ሴት ናት። ህመሟን ከሁሉም ሰው መደበቅ የምትችል የሚመስላት የህይወት ተበዳይ ናት። ግን ይሄን ይሄን ተበደልኩ ብላ አትናገርም። ተበደልኩኝም አትልም። ይሄ መላዋ ሌሎች ሰዎች ዘንድ ሰርቶላት ይሆናል። አልበገር ባይነቷን ይሆናል ሌሎች የሚረዱት። እሱግን "ሳይሽ ነው የማውቅሽ.... አትበይኝ ነኝ ደህና" ብሏት ይጀምራል። ይሄ ፍቅር ነው ፣ መተዋወቅ ነው ፣ መናበብ ነው። ከፍ ሲል ደሞ መተሳሰብ።
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ሳይሽ ነው የማውቅሽ መች ትጠፊኝ እና
ለሰው ላመልሽ ብትይም ነኝ ደህና
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ፀጋዬ "ወንድ ልጅ ሲያለቅስ ከሰው ተደብቆ" እንደሚለው ልጂት እንባዋ ቢመጣም ቤተሰቧ ፊት አታለቅስም። ውጬ ቆማ ዋጥ አድርጋ ጨርሳው ነው የምትገባው። ይሄ የሚጠቅማት ይመስላታል። ምናልባት ኢጎዋን በዚህ ትጠብቅበት ይሆናል እሱግን ይሄን አስተሳሰብ ሲያፋልስባት ነገሩን አውርዶ የስስቱን የፍቅሩን ያህል አሳንሷት ልጁ ያደርጋትና "ቱ በይ" ይላታል። በችግሯና በእሷ መሀል ገላጋይ ሆኖ ለመቆም እየሞከረ "ግሎ እንዳያሳርርሽ" ይላታል። ይሄን ሲላት ከልክ ያለፈ የአልሸነፍ ባይነቷን ጦስ ነው የሚነግራት። በዝቷል ከመብሰል አልፎ ሊያሳርርሽ ነው እያለ ያለው
"እንባ ምን በወጣሽ
ቱ በይ ላብርድልሽ
ገላጋይ (ገላጋይ)
ግሎ እንዳያሳርርሽ "
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ሊሸውዳት አይፈልግም። እንደህፃን ጉንጯን አሻሽቶ ስሞ አቅፎ ዝም ሊላት አይደለም ሀሳቡ። እሱ የልብ እንደማያደርስ እና መፍትሄ እንደማይሆን ያውቃል። ለዚህ ነው
"መዳፍ ጉንጭ እንጂ
ቢያሽ አይበሉባ
ለእንስፍስፍ አይደርስ ሆድ ለሚያባባ " የሚላት።
በመተቃቀፍ ተድበስብሶ የሚያልፍ ነገር አይደለም፤ ይልቅ እናውራበት ነው እያለ ያለው። ካላወራሽኝሽ ወዳጅነቴ ለመቼ ነው? እኔ አንቺጋር ያለኝ ቦታ ምንድነው ለዚህ ካልሆንኩ የሚል ሙግት ነው የያዘው። እቺ ግጥም የምታሳየው ይሄንን ነው
"ለዚ ለዚ እንጂ
ሰው ወዳጅ ቢባል
ያጫውተኝ አፍሽ ሆድሽ ምን አባ "
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ከዛ ሙግቱ ይከርራል። ደህናነኝ ምንም አልሆንኩም አታስጨንቀኝ የሚል ማምለጫ በር ይከፈታል። ልጅቷ በዋዛ የምትረታ አይደለችም ወይም ደሞ የገጠማትን ነገር አብራርቶ መናገር ሽንፈት ይመስላታል አሊያም የሚሰማትን ሰው ማስጨነቅ ይመስላት ይሆናል። ስለዚህ ድርቅ ትላለች ይህኔ የመረዳቱን ጥግ ሲያሳያት
"ስቀሽም ሲቃሽን አያለው እንኳንስ እቺን እቺን እና.." ይላል። እዛው አዝማችላይ ደሞ እንደማይተዋት አልግርም ስላለችው ዝም እንደማይላት የሚያሳያት
"ሳይቀልሽ ላልለቅሽ እምላለሁ
ሆኗል ህመምሽ ህመሜ...." በማለት ነው
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የሚወዱት ሰው የገጠመውን ችግር አልነግር ሲል ወዳጅ ጭንቅላቱ የነገሩን ጫፍ ይዞ መተንተን ይሆናል ስራው። ልክ እናት ልጇ እደጅ ሲያመሽ ቁጭብላ ክፉ ክፉውን እንደምታስበው። አፍቃሪም ባልተነገረው ችጥርላይ ሲገኝ የሚኖረው ብቸኛ አማራጭ ካየው ፍንጭ ተነስቶ ነገሩን መገመት ነው። አብዛኛውን ግዜ ደሞ በግምት የሚሰራ ትንታኔ ከእውነታውም በላይ የከፋ ያስጨንቃል። ያ ሰው ችግሩን ባለመንገሩ እኛን የጠቀመ ወይ ኢጎውን የጠበቀ ቢመስለውም የሆነን ሰው ግን ለግምት ስቃይ እየዳረገ ነው። ምን ይሆን የሚል ጥያቄ ይዞ እንዲያልመዘምዝ እየተፈረደበት ነው። እንዲ ቢጨንቀው ግዜ ነው
"አልገምት ይዤ ጫፉን
ጥርስሽ ዘግቶ ደጃፉን
ላግዝ ሀሳብ መቅዘፉን
ገርበብ አርጊ የአፍ በራፉን " ያላት
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ከዛ በጣም የሚያምረው ኳየር ይመጣል። በጋራ የሚሰማው ዜማም ተማፅኖ ነው። አውሪኝ ንገሪኝ እና መፍትሄ እናበጅ ነው ልመናው። አፍቃሪ ጨቅጫቃ ነው። የሚያፈቅረው ሰው የተቸገረ ከመሰለው ተኝቶ አያድርም። የሁሉም አፍቃሪ ምኞት ገላጋይ መሆን ነው። ለወደዱት ሰው መድረስ ነው ፍቅር ማለት። ግን የወደድናቸው ሰዎች እንዳንደርስላቸው በሩን ሲዘጉብን ይሄንን የዮሀናን ዘፈን እንጋብዛቸዋለን።
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አልቻለም ማለፍ ገፍቶ
እንዳላየሽ አይኔ አይቶ
ጆሮዬም አይል ከቶ
የራሷ ጉዳይ ሰምቶ
አልገምት ይዤ ጫፉን
ጥርስሽ ዘግቶ ደጃፉን
ላግዝ ሀሳብ መቅዘፉን
ገርበብ አርጊ የአፍ በራፉን

አልቻለም ማለፍ ገፍቶ
እንደሩቅ ሰው አይኑ አይቶ
ምሎልሻል ቃል ገብቶ
ችላ አይልሽም ሰምቶ
እና ስቀሽ ላይ ላዩን
አርቀሽ እኔን ባዩን
ተይ ሳይሆን እንደማይሆን
መፍትሄ አብስሉ ባይሆን
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#ስሙት

@LonelyDude
Lonely Dude • • • pinned «እስኪ ከጠበቅኩት አጉድሎብኝ የማያውቀውን ዮሀናን ትንሽ እናናግረው... #ገላጋይ . . ልጅቷ እልኸኛናት። ችግሯን መናገር መሸነፍ የሚመስላት። በራስ መተማመኗ አልፏት ሄዶ ሊጎዳት የተቃረበ ሴት ናት። ህመሟን ከሁሉም ሰው መደበቅ የምትችል የሚመስላት የህይወት ተበዳይ ናት። ግን ይሄን ይሄን ተበደልኩ ብላ አትናገርም። ተበደልኩኝም አትልም። ይሄ መላዋ ሌሎች ሰዎች ዘንድ ሰርቶላት ይሆናል። አልበገር ባይነቷን…»
Uk that that girl where ur mind is stuck at ... that girl whom you ruined your years long relationship for when you cheated with her ... that girl u met, loved, had sweet times with but were so toxic to eachother u ended separating (her blocking u and putting ur phone number on blacklist),... that girl even after years u still remember ... that girl when like today when ur in ur worst mind state you couldn't text/call/Dm for support but u wish u did and u did after opening another account months ago on fb for stalking her and finally DM'ing her today because nobody has never understood u like her ... that girl ur friends consider as that "ቢች" because u was in a relatinonship back then and never told them she is the one u really loved and could never admit so you told ur friends the bad sides of her only sooooo much exaggerated and told them and hid the real story of ur heart ... that girl u would die for but she hates you for the አasshole things u did to her .... That girl u feel secure inside whenever and whatever happens to u ... that girl you love but you know she hates you more than anything else in her life
That girl u wish you could have the power of time travel to mend things ... that girl that trusted you but ypu betrayed but now you know when like today when ur in a shitshow, she was the only one you could vent toooo ...
That girl u dream of to nut while ፋucking some other girl ....
That girl I really love ... I DM'ed a whole almost one page paragraph today
Hope I delete this Vent because for years she has ruined every girl I tried to date

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Lonely Dude • • • pinned «Uk that that girl where ur mind is stuck at ... that girl whom you ruined your years long relationship for when you cheated with her ... that girl u met, loved, had sweet times with but were so toxic to eachother u ended separating (her blocking u and putting…»
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